It's Not Fair

I have been hearing this phrase more than I would like...

"It's not fair" (stated in a whiny voice)

To be honest, it is quite annoying, but then again...anything stated in a whiny voice makes me want to put in earplugs...walk away....hum...sing...turn up the music...anything to drown out the sound.

You know what, though? There are quite a few things in the boys' lives that are not fair right now.

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It isn't fair that they cry themselves to sleep because they miss their brothers who we haven't seen in way too long....we just don't have control over it. 

It isn't fair that they feel anxious because they have to live in this state of extreme limbo because we can't really tell them anything since it isn't 100% certain....we just don't have any control over that.

It isn't fair that one gets to spend time with his birth mother, but the other can't right now...and in his words - "It is so hard to wait." We have absolutely no control.

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It isn't fair.

We don't have control.

And it is SO hard to see them struggling with their loss.

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 But you know what? God is good and He uses these feelings of unfairness....He uses our lack of control....and He uses our grieving to reveal to us that...

He is always just.

He desires to take our burdens and be in control.

He is our ultimate comforter.